Tuesday, September 14, 2010

There are always two sides to every story

There is an old saying that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

I have always disagreed with that thought because I think it only "appears" to be greener and it is not necessarily a fact. And, if it really is greener, it says to me that the person over there is tending to their grass better: water, nutrients, time.
How does this connect to two sides to every story you ask. Good question. It's not an exact correlation, just similar in ways.
When you have a disagreement with someone, a big fight, or a divorce, we always want our side heard more and to have people agree with us, take our side, and value our perspective more than the other persons. There lies the rub.....perspectives. I know this because I have been there and I always appreciate my perspective more, but I have learned that the other person thinks their perspective is more valid. You may replace the word perspective with truth. What I have also found is that the truth lies usually somewhere in the middle. Sometimes located a little closer to one side than the other and sometimes not, because perspective/truth is an interesting thing. If you set 10 people down to watch 10 minutes of the same program, you could come up with 10 versions of what was most interesting, thought provoking, funny, sad, etc..
Whenever I have an upset in my life, I always want to tell every friend I know. It helps me get it off my shoulder and out of my mind. It may make my friends crazy (I hope not), but I also found my friends have good listening skills and give good advice (and they like me enough to listen to my story). Even if I don't take their advice, it helps to mull it around a bit and see if I think it fits or would help. If not, it quite frequently becomes good advice to pass along to other people when they are having troubles.
So the bottom line is this....if you are tending to things on your side of the fence, nothing will look greener any where else and you won't have to worry about having a perspective or a truth to deal with.

Now get out there and water!!!

Today's thoughts are....

May God give you eyes to see beauty only the heart can understand. - unknown -

Resolve buffs the tarnish from dreams and dulled expectations so that they can once again guide like lighthouse beacons. - unknown -

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