Funny that this should be the quote today since I have been thinking about love issues all day. I realize this references all aspects of ones life and not just a love life, but I am going to focus here on that one matter.
Gerald Jampolsky (?spelling?) wrote a book with the thought "love is the answer, no matter the question".
The course in miracles asks you to think whether you want to choose love or do you want to chose to be right, because we often want to prove that we are right at the expense of love. Many fights go on for this reason.
And I once attended a lecture by Deepak Chopra who explained that the opposite of love is not hate, it is fear. So when things are not going well in love or we are not treating our love well, what are we feeling fearful about.
I almost think it's a shame God gives us hormones and the desire to have love and sex when we are so young. We don't know ourselves, what we want to be, how to handle a relationship, but we do it anyway. Unlike the animal world where most if not all creatures do everything because they are compelled to do it that way and don't even get to "think" about it before hand, we have choices and the ability to choose. It seems we usually choose falling in love, having intercourse, marriage, babies, mortgages, and a ton of other stuff, before we have finished growing up and learning about us. Now I know everyone thinks they are grown up at 18 because the government says we are now adults, but that doesn't mean we have learned all about ourselves and navigating the rest of our lives. And then we want to throw navigating relationships and/or marriage and maybe children into the mix. Hell, I'm uncertain how I made it at all now that I think about it. OMG, I might just be all grown up.
Anyway, back to the thought for the day. Our ego spends a long time dictating to us each and every day, and if we let it get in the way, love would be out the door. If we go by this idea of letting love guide your life, then you must consider many things regardless of what the ego wants. You may need to go stand on the other side of the fence just to look back at your side and see the other persons perspective.....oh, that could be scary. You might need to consider compromise and a few other things.
My dad always said it takes two to tango. It takes two to be in love, it really takes two to make a marriage work, it takes two to have a fight, and it takes two to have a divorce. That brings us back to two sides of every story by the way.
I think there is an Anne Murray song where she sings that, anyone can do the heartbreak, anyone can make love end, everyone knows the dance. but to bring love back again is going to take a little pain and some heartache. In most cases I think it's worth a try. Love is after all what we are about from the moment of conception until we die. Maybe eternity????
Choose love. It could be a tango that takes your breath away.
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